Roaming Towards Myself

Welcome to Roaming Towards Myself.

This blog is about travel, starting again, old places, ghosts, books, family history, relationship red flags, and building a life that actually fits.

I’m an Australian woman in my fifties, currently travelling, writing, house-sitting, researching, planning a move overseas, and slowly collecting the pieces of the next version of my life.

Not a perfect version.
Not a shiny version.
A real one.

Here are a few places to start.

If you’re here for travel

I write about the places I visit, especially the free or low-cost ones, the historic ones, the walkable ones, and the places with stories tucked into the stonework.

Start with:

Free Day Out in Reigate: Priory Park, Castle Grounds, Fort and Tunnel

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/04/26/fabulous-free-day-out-in-reigate/
Teddington, London: Why It’s a Great Base for Walks, Food and History
Seven Sisters Chalk Cliffs: Visiting Birling Gap in East Sussex

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/05/04/seven-sisters-chalk-cliffs/
Walking Around Teddington: Boats, Old Pubs and Churchyards

If you’re here for haunted places and old stories

I love places with history, atmosphere, ghost stories, old churches, strange windows, cemeteries, caves and legends that refuse to behave themselves.

Start with:

Pluckley: England’s Most Haunted Village and Its Hidden History

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/05/04/pluckley-englands-most-haunted-village/
R. D. Blackmore’s Grave at Shacklegate Cemetery, Teddington
My Convict Ancestor John Savage: Transported on the Mary Anne in 1835

If you’re here for starting again

A lot of this blog is about changing direction later in life, not because life became tidy, but because staying still stopped making sense.

Start with:

Why I’m Leaving Australia to Build a Life That Fits
Chiang Mai: The Moment I Realised I Was Happy
How Travel Helped Me Feel Happy Again After Depression
Finding Calm in Chiang Mai: Solo Travel, Grief and Starting Again

If you’re here for relationship red flags

I also write about emotional unavailability, blurred boundaries, quiet control, disrespect, and the things that can be easier to understand once you are no longer standing in the middle of them.

Start with:

Dismissive Avoidant Dating Red Flags: What to Watch For
Dating Someone With a Female Best Friend: Red Flags to Watch For
Emotional Unavailability: When the Mask Finally Slips
Red Flags I Missed: The Quiet Control in a Relationship

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/05/07/red-flags-i-missed-the-quiet-control/
Is Your Relationship Over? Signs It May Be Time to Let Go

If you’re here for books

I write books too. Some are personal, some are practical, some are about hard things written in plain language.

Start with:

Building A Life I Actually Want

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/04/17/building-a-life-i-actually-want-book/
Just Friends: When Boundaries Blur and Respect Disappears
How’s Your Head, Mummy?

https://roamingtowardsmyself.blog/2026/05/02/new-book-hows-your-head-mummy/

You can find them on my Books by Debbie Terrantroy page.

If you’re here for family history

I’m also researching my family history, including my convict ancestor John Savage, who was transported from Lancashire to New South Wales on the Mary Anne in 1835.

Start with:

My Convict Ancestor John Savage: Transported on the Mary Anne in 1835

There will be more coming as I keep digging through archives, records and suspiciously difficult handwriting.

What this blog is really about

At the centre of it all, this blog is about choosing a life that fits.

Travel is part of that.
Writing is part of that.
France is part of that.
Old places, ghosts, history, books, dogs, family and freedom are all part of that.

It is not about having everything worked out.

It is about paying attention, making changes, and building something real from here.

Welcome.
Start anywhere.
There’s probably a castle, cemetery, red flag, old pub, ghost story, or cup of coffee nearby.

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